Weddings are always known for being happy occasions and bringing love and new life to the happy couple , however it is unfortunately the case that sometimes not all couples have those loved ones around them be it family or friends that have passed on. No matter if it’s a recent passing or some years it can still be a hard emotion on the day. I find in my line of work that when I’m dealing with brides prior to their wedding this is where they might tell me if someone is missing from their close circle as it sometimes might cause upset on the morning so they like to give me the heads up , and more often than not when they are having their trials this is where an odd tear might be shed and from the bottom of my heart I’m so fine with that , if you need to cry and let it out whilst with me go for it , I’ll probably end up having a tear with you too so we are in good company.
There are always lovely touches to be introduced to your wedding for these circumstances. No-one is saying you have to do big huge jestures to remember those who aren’t here but it’s completely up to what you as a bride or groom individually want or as a married couple.
For any bride that has a Mum/ Grandmother not by her side of course it will be tough but you will want to feature their memory in the most loving way . A few beautiful personal ideas could be to possibly wearing her favourite brand and shade of lippy as your wedding lipstick , spraying your bridal bouquet with their favourite perfume or a perfume that reminds you of them . I would spray this gently on your bouquet rather than yourself as you want to create your own memory of your own special wedding perfume . If your lucky enough to possibly have any of their jewellery why not get part of it attached to your bridal jewellery or your hair accessory /veil , it doesn’t have to be the full piece even if it’s a few pearls/stones introduced to what you have all ready chosen . Bouquet charms are just so beautiful also and you can add your own image that’s brings a great memory to life again or even pick their favourite flower as part of your bouquet, or even your flower girls bouquet if having it in yours was too hard , go with how you feel and cherish their memory best to suit you .
For any Groom that has a Father /Grandfather not by their side as well here are a few little ideas to have them by your side in spirit. Pocket watches are a great feature in mens suits so why not convert their watch into a pocket watch which most jewellers would do and use it as part of your wedding look or even keep the strap from their watch they wore and wrap part of it around your button hole for your suit jacket. If your Father or Grandfather wore pocket squares wear theirs rather than a new one .
In regards sewing a piece of fabric on from a loved ones shirt this is a beautiful idea for both the bride & groom no matter who you are cherishing the memory off this will work for everyone , I would stitch it on the inside of the wedding dress or inside the Grooms suit jacket (safety pin it if it’s hired) on the side of your heart .
As a married couple keep it simple at your reception ,at your cake table as couples do have framed pictures of those that you both want to remember on it , if you want cut into your wedding cake with your Grandparents posh cutlery knife 😜😜(do they still exist ) or simply light a few tea lights on the cake table too (or the battery operated ones for safety) to mark the people who would loved to have shared your day.
Memories will always make us shed a tear but they can also make us shed happy tears so most importantly go enjoy your wedding day and involve those not with us in some way shape or form as a new life is beginning for you as husband and wife and many more memories have started all ready for you both
Aisling Kelleher ❤️